Ms. Summan Islam
consultant psychologist specialist in treating and managing depression, anxiety, OCD, Personal/marital conflicts. She has done Masters in Applied Psychology and M. Phil in Clinical Psychology with experience of 7 years in this field
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Around 2016, the concept of hygge exploded in American culture. Pronounced HOO-ga, this Danish term translates most concisely into “coziness,” but it has also been described as “a quality of coziness and comfortable conviviality that engenders a feeling of contentment or well-being” and “the absence of anything unpleasant.” Several years ago, hygge was suddenly everywhere: It was the topic of at least eight books, a documentary film, a design shop, and more. Mention this phenomenon to a Dane, and you will likely be met with a look of amused bewilderment. Hygge is so embedded in Danish culture that it’s difficult for Danes to understand the fascination. But Americans are always eager for a happiness boost. And hygge is one of the most easily importable ideas from the small Scandinavian nation that consistently tops the charts of the world’s happiest countries. Like most trends, however, hygge was soon replaced by other concepts that attempt to explain the high rates of Scandinavian happiness. Lagom, a Swedish word roughly meaning “just the right amount,” was the next idea to take hold. Fika, the daily Swedish coffee break, and sisu, the Finnish word for courage, also had their moments of influence. But now is the time to revisit the original Scandinavian buzzword. It’s time to bring hygge back. Why now? Hygge is practically synonymous with Danish winters, which are characterized by up to 17 hours of darkness: think flickering candles, fuzzy slippers, a crackling fire, and the winter holidays. In fact, some argue that hygge evolved as a coping mechanism for these long, harsh winters. As much of the U.S. is transitioning to the spring and summer months, hygge seems a bit out of season. Enter COVID-19. For those of us privileged enough to be riding out the pandemic at home, the question of how to maintain our well-being in these challenging times is paramount. Our worlds have gotten incredibly small, encompassing our home, maybe our immediate neighborhood, and the occasional trip to the grocery store. Even with the days getting longer and the sun shining, we are hunkered down. We crave safety and security. In short, the stage is actually set for hygge. Create hygge today. In The Little Book of Hygge, Danish author and CEO of The Happiness Research Institute Meik Wiking breaks down the multifaceted concept of hygge into practical suggestions. Some of them seem particularly vital at this moment, and — importantly — they cost very little time or money. Experiment with these ideas and you may just find unexpected moments of joy, contentment, and security in these unusual and trying times. 1. Indulge your senses. While our worlds have gotten physically smaller, there is still much to notice and appreciate. Start by looking around your immediate environment. Is it pleasing to all of your senses? What sights fill you with good feelings? It could be a favorite family photo or flowers blooming outside. Take a moment to appreciate these things. Going beyond sight: Can you play some soothing music? Light a scented candle? Eat something delicious? Snuggle your pet? Hold and sip a warm cup of tea? Wear something soft? (There is even a Danish word for those soft, comfortable pants that you'd never be caught wearing in public: hyggebukser). You may be doing some of these things already, but you’ll enjoy them much more if you spend a moment really luxuriating in the sensory experiences they create. 2. Create a nook. Craft a little hygge zone for yourself, one that makes you feel relaxed, safe, and cozy. It could be a corner of the living room that looks out onto nature. It could be your bedroom, softly lit and full of soft pillows and blankets. As summer comes, it could be a place where you set up a hammock in the backyard and savor the warm breeze. It doesn’t need to be an interior designer’s dream. It just needs to make you feel safe and snug. If look around and realize that your home contains no hygge zones, can you create one? Comfort, security, and pleasantness are your goals – otherwise, there are no rules. 3. Embrace traditions. However small, rituals and traditions can provide a deep sense of safety, linking us to our lineage and culture while jogging warm memories. What simple rituals do you enjoy performing every day? Continue doing those. Looking back further: What games did you play as a child? What recipes did your family make? What family stories can you recall? Consider reviving these traditions for a feeling of being rooted and secure. If you have children, passing these traditions on may provide an extra boost. Looking through old photo albums and reminiscing on warm or funny memories may also effectively connect you with your roots. 4. Go low-tech. Thanks to increased social media use, online schooling, and countless Zoom meetings, many of us are suffering from screen-fatigue and stress. Although screen-time is both a professional necessity and a social lifeline right now, it can also be incredibly draining. To free yourself from this overwhelm, carve out some dedicated time without screens. A socially-distant walk in nature. Working with your family on a jigsaw puzzle. Looking at the stars on a clear night. Allow yourself to be in the present moment without distraction. For many of us, the stage is set for hygge. We are at home. We don’t have packed schedules. We deeply crave comfort, security, and a sense of well-being. This may be just the time to acknowledge that hygge is more than a trendy Danish buzzword, but a mindset that can help us survive these difficult times.
Building on Frankl's astute observation, brain scientist Jill Bolte Taylor, author of My Stroke Of Insight, describes our ability to regulate that neurological process that she calls the 90-second rule: “When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90-second chemical process that happens; any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop.” We’ve all had the experience of a situation or a person setting us off. A rude comment, bad news, something breaks down, an unexpected inconvenience, and we lose our temper. It’s not because we have bad luck or life has a vendetta against us. Why, then? When someone or something sets us off, it’s because we don't possess the impulse control or we're not aware of another way to respond to the upsetting situation. No situation and nobody can make us feel or do anything. Viktor Frankl showed us that. We always have a choice to react or not. For those who claim that unleashing their ire feels goo
Children of every age are totally distressed now days. Ever wonder why? May be the huge factor behind their lack of interest in family matters or anything related to their family is because they are not brought up right. We must know that the care and support from parents is very necessary for a child. From the conception till the very end, a child needs support which is going to help him or her in every aspect of development. When parents don’t show this much needed support and avoid their children or don’t give them much required time in their early years of life then this type of children often become distant and stop getting involve in family matters. This is also the major reason where children start believing in other people outside the family who show them little support and love. And sometimes, it becomes very dangerous. Let’s take an example of current situation of World, rapists, pedophiles, kidnappers and such other criminals’ approach children through social media websites and children become their target easily. Because children started to believe them, children started to trust them. Their little care and support becomes a huge trouble for children. They believe them because they haven’t received such type of affection from the family before. Children started to share their personal information with such people on social media which lands them in trouble in future. These criminals take advantage of children through this way easily. According to Freud, a famous and well-known Psychologist, ‘’Children become mentally ill because of their parents ill treatment with them.’’ Parents play important role in the life of children. Their physical and mental health is all up to the environment created by their parents. Parents must show affection and give proper time to their children for their better mental health. PSYCHOLOGIST -Fatima Umer Farooq
Written by Clinical Psychologist Summan Islam Teachers of special children have become precarious themselves. Particular educational teachers have great opportunities of leaving their schools than their complement in education; especially those teachers have educated their students to meet the hardships and challenges of emotional and behavioral. Engaging trained educators are decided specific challenges which they have skilled from the pattern of their job, required the greater chance of performance in different and functional situation with the same students everlasting beside special educators. Moreover, some specific educators of emotional challenged students work have great stress due to teachers from the design in their jobs, acquire from a lack of training, according to analysis of literature. The absence of training comprises fewer hours of teaching, fewer credentials, different derivation credential and less employability preparations than other specific educators. Some believes that the issue of high weakness assess stem directly from this absence of acceptable preparation intimate the suggestion to end different special education teachers credentials. Moreover the central psychological services by educational teachers, such as that of integration and values can slow the absence rate. This addresses the reality that the absence of special educators is interrelated with their problems. The plan is for special educators continue grounded and integration flexible and mindfully acquire events. Acceptance needed the special education teacher to willingly squeeze internal training and endure psychological workable and flexible, integrated and relatively immoveable life direction. Therefore evoking the significance of values and acceptance internal valuable and process oriented experience can improve collapse, yet it ignores the external challenges of stress, involving the better management of the external circumstance. For example the quantitative analysis of style discloses that reservation of special education teachers they should enhance with improvement in the establishment and management of public schools
“Take care of your body it’s the only place you have to live in.” We know that staying active is one of the best ways to keep our bodies healthy. But did you know it can also improve your overall well-being and quality of life? Staying active is best ways to keep our body healthy and also help you to feel better, live better and you look better. So how to stay active? here are just few physical activities and modify your daily routine to keep you to active and fresh mind. Because physical activity is one of the most important factors relate to your health and fitness in 21st century. There are many factors impact on health like sedentary lifestyle, obesity, eating fast food, sleep disturbance, hypertension and many other factors like cardiovascular diseases , diabetes mellitus, , low body calcium level , early bone degerenative diseases, hormonal issues and osteoporosis . So all these problem highly impact on your health. So the time to need is that , how to cope up from all . So simply change you dai
Innocent child leading toward the devils of society. Human beings, whenever hit the ground, its presence can be feel all around there. The creator’s great creation of human beings as a child. The child the little stars of this universe, start blinking and grew up. But the innocence, shineness of these stars is extract out by the crueler of this society. The cruelity that we are serving to our child in form of cell-phones and supporting them on their bad deeds, instead of promoting good behavior or by exposing them the realities. They are searching, exploring the instinctual things without knowing Ego (the self, especially with a sense of self-importance) Super-ego (the part of mind that acts as a self-critical conscience, reflecting social standards that have been learnt) phenomena just following Id (unconscious impulsive component of the personality) as regarded by “Sigmund Freud” These instinctual exploration becomes the part of their personality, their life and fixation on instinctual stage leads toward the sexual abuse, the abusers that just not only destroy their life and also their family destroyed because of their evil behaviors, these abusers influence the whole society, their mental state. Recently many cases found with the psychosexual abnormalities, that include the self-sex and satisfying their instinctual needs with others in immoral way and those who are exhausted, frustrated with the feeling that they used to see the bare ladies or person that they do not want to see anymore, but they unable to cope with those instinctual desires. Being a Psychologist, I am absolutely assured about this, we can recover such persons those whom are part of our youth, our future, ours nation builder’s. We can help those by assisting them with the Behavioral and many more therapies As a Psychologist, it’s my humble request from parents help their child to cope up with such instinctual needs, the needs those are essential, Instead stigmatization and bullying. Let them grow with ego and superego vision of this world. Not set your child much free, as they start-up to lose the limits, or not to restrict much. Because the conflict situation is always leads toward abnormalities, set them limits and let them flew beyond them. An Idol brain, is a devil’s worship Humbly! Keep an eye on your child behavior and also on yours self, behavior and daily activates because the parent’s personality can be asses by the child pursuits. Parent authoritative figure affect the child and over restricted behavior lead toward hatred and make them good liar and their incomplete desires stay in their unconscious and affect their present and future personality. Parent thinks they are helping their child by promoting free-will and disciplined life but actually they are hurting their souls, their personality , their whole life actually, not only their life, instead they are affecting the whole society. Unconsciously or consciously the parents, the media somehow promoting the devils deeds that in results originating physical and sexual abusers and criminals in our youth/ in our society. Their unconscious extract out as a devil. A devil that was once an innocent child, the most sweet part of this universe then lead toward the vulnerability and end-up as a devil, a devil with no feelings, death or life has same meaning for such persons We need to promote the society in which innocent fly with their innocence, the shining stars should be polish to shine in a more bright way, instead of to make them vulnerable part of society by killing their dreams, by repressing their personal interest, desires, emotions or pleasant full activities. Let them fly with their inner peace. Inner satisfaction leads toward self-actualization (psychological development that can be achieved when all basic and mental needs are fulfilled) that results with an unstoppable individual, that enhance the progress of society and success of whole nation.
Mental health is as important as physical health but is often neglected and overlooked. In spite of the fact that mental illnesses are not as noticeable as physical ones and regarded as invisible diseases, we can’t deny that, they are still considered a taboo in our society. It is one of the major reasons due to which mental health is not taken seriously worldwide. Research shows that people considered it easier coming out as gay than admitting a mental health illness. There is a certain stigma attached to mental health disorders that makes it a big deal for people to accept that they are mentally ill. 1 in 4 people suffers from a mental illness so; it’s high time that we start taking mental health seriously. Having a mental illness does not mean that you have become a demented and cannot function properly for the rest of your life. It simply means that you need help; you need to seek a mental health professional so that your illness can be treated on time and does not affect the functioning of your life. Most of the times, people have false assumptions about mental illnesses and in that case, if they encounter one of the illness, they start thinking about what other people would think about them and instead of seeking a mental health professional they search on the internet and diagnose themselves and then even start treating themselves on their own by reading a few articles. It does not work like that, your brain is an organ just like other organs of your body, you can’t treat it on your own, it also needs to be treated well like your heart, eyes, lungs, and kidneys by licensed professionals only. Mental illnesses are more common than you think and it affects physical health too as the brain is a prominent part of our body so; any dis-functioning in the brain can cause physical dis-functioning also. Serious mental illnesses can also cause heart problems, gastrointestinal problems, breathing problems, obesity, strokes, weakened immune system, etc. Early detection of mental disorders can make a big difference and can prevent the symptoms from getting worse. Unfortunately, mental health is not taken seriously due to several reasons like social stigma, lack of insight, limited awareness, distrust, hopelessness, fear and, shame. People often feel uncomfortable and shameful talking about their mental health issues and they are not even aware of the fact that with whom they should discuss their mental illness and who can treat them. In many cases, people are fearful to discuss their mental health issues despite knowing that they need someone to help them just because of social stigmas attached to mental illnesses and they assume that having any sort of mental illness will make them less acceptable in their society. We cannot deny that worldwide people have different stigmas attached to mental health and even it is considered taboo but, we should be aware of the fact that mental health is as important as physical health, and to live a completely healthy life we should sound healthy both mentally and physically. One cannot live a happy life while being mentally ill so, we should normalize talking about mental health and also start taking it seriously.